Something relevant to business, women, and pretty much all of life is being able to network effectively. In other words, meet people, hit it off, and feel comfortable enough to stay in touch with them. This applies to women in the respect that most guys that are good with women have a LOT of friends, and stay busy. They’re the kind of guys that can usually throw really awesome parties, right?
Meeting people was never the problem for me. That’s done with, generally speaking… sarging. You meet friends just from talking to a lot of people at work, in common interest groups (lairs for example), and everywhere else under the sun. Basically, by living life and playing video games and watching TV less.
What may hold you back from effectively growing your network seemingly has two aspects:
1.) Calling people you’ve lost touch with can be a little more difficult if it’s been a long time since you last spoke. Think of this as a type of approach anxiety (including with women, and friends that are either male or female).
2.) Even if you call an enormous number of people, an individual only has so much time in a week. You can’t literally go to each friend’s house for a few hours and hang with them individually always, because, of course you’re an in demand guy that knows a lot of people. This would strongly limit your maximum-homedog capacity.
Dealing with these problems
In dealing with anxiety in calling old friends, acquaintances, etc. it is important to realize that many of the friends you’ve lost touch with may or may not be as gregarious as you are. They may be a little more socially anxious. And everyone, I repeat, everyone has some anxieties that they have to push past. So approach calling up old acquaintances and friends like you would other approach anxiety: plow past it. Realize other people are human and feel similar things but it’s not a good excuse to not get in touch with old friends. Most people are bored out of their minds, would love to be surprised with a call or an invitation to something — even if they don’t accept! An invitation in the first place is a compliment, so be persistent.
Aspect #2 is actually my favorite. It’s something I’ve received great pleasure from and that is: going out of my way to introduce people to each other. If more of my friends hung out with each other it wouldn’t be so difficult to fit everyone in. Instead, we can just have a random self-assembling party since we’ve established a big group in which everybody is friends with at least a few other of the people there. I’ve gotten to the point that I pride myself on my knack for knowing what personalities are going to hit it off well together and hooking people up with some new people they’re going to enjoy hanging out with.
So make calling up old friends, acquaintances, or people whose numbers you have but never really got the opportunity to hang out with a part of your self-improvement regimen.
