Kevo’s April/May Challenge to EACH OF YOU!

It has been said that the journey from AFC to PUA can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding transformations that a man can experience. We finally learn to take control of our lives with dominant authority, improving our opportunities in all outlooks of life, as well as expanding our options with women.

However, it sometimes becomes easy to let our successes cloud our ambitions. We see marked progress as we watch the man that we formerly were disappear into our pasts. We get the types of girls that we have always wanted, and quite frequently with relative ease. Soon, we begin to stand out in our social circles, jobs, and other group activities. People notice a difference, a chance in confidence – the results are undeniable.

It is, ironically enough, in our success that we often find ourselves becoming complacent. Along with the power that one is able to leverage using what he has learned comes a giant responsibility. A responsibility to use what we’ve learned to help better ourselves, and perhaps more importantly, a responsibility to help others. A responsibility to stand out, to take charge, and to lead by example.

Throughout the PUA journey, we learn that the things we had been traditionally conditioned to believe attracted women actually did the exact opposite. Showering with gifts, giving them gobs of attention, asking permission – the typical AFC mistakes – we are now acutely aware of the trouble they bring. We realize that we don’t have to be the most attractive guy in the world. A six-pack and the body of a male underwear model isn’t neccesary to get women- hell, it probably won’t help a bit unless other attraction techniques are also done correctly.

I have noticed a tendency of the developing PUA (myself included) to see massive success, and subsequently forget that certain things that may not be “necessary” to meet women are nonetheless still helpful. We go out looking like hell, wrinkled clothes, ratty tennis shoes – all because “who cares, girls love me anyway”. We forget to brush our hair in the morning, to shave, or to brush our teeth. We don’t work out, we don’t run, we hardly get off the computer except to go sarge, go to class, and go to work. This is where the problems develop. I still hear, “Why does it matter, I still have girls calling me all day?”

It matters because we are responsible for our own personal development and success. I once read a book on personal transformation by an Australian author named Matthew Kelly. His one powerful, underlying, and pervasive theme throughout the entire text was to “Be the best possible version of yourself.” I think that’s a great guideline by which we all should live.

I therefore want to encourage this community to begin taking fitness seriously. I realize that you don’t have to be jacked to meet and attract women. Conversely, consider how much more you’d clean up if you were to drop 15 pounds and pick up a little bit of definition? Could you stop your phone from ringing? And more importantly, how much better would you feel about yourself? Your body will thank you, I promise.

So here it is. I’m laying out a challenge to everyone, myself included, to set a fitness goal. It doesn’t have to be a huge one. For myself, my goal is to solidly commit to run 4 times a week, in the mornings, for an entire month, and to continue until I’m back at a level of fitness that I’m comfortable with. For others, it could be taking the first step and joining a gym. A few suggestions:

- do 100 pushups every day, without fail, even if you have to do 10 sets of 10 to finish.

- do 100 sit-ups every day, using the same breakdown if neccesary.

- run at least 1 – 1.5 miles, at least 3x a week.

I’m urging everyone to make a commitment to himself to finish, and I’d like to hear how everyone is doing. The great thing about fitness is that, with a little bit of discipline and commitment, it quickly becomes self-sustaining. You will start to enjoy working out and to feel better about yourself every time you set foot out of the gym. I’m anxious to see the results in some of you. For one month, commit towards becoming the best possible version of yourself. Best of luck!

- Kevo